by Neo »
02 Nov 2004, 02:34
I just want to say (again something I have already told you in person) that if you have an issue with me then you need to send it to me in a PM if it's concerning the site. Do not post something in the forums that is only pertaining to one person. If you've got a bone to pick with that one person, and it's posted in the site, and poorly worded, then everyone associated with the various features or sections of the post will take offense and believe that you're refering to them.
Concerning your anger with me, there is no reason to be angry. As I have stated before, I pay money for this site, and I will choose who I want to be moderators on it as I so desire. If I feel that there is a reason that someone should not be a moderator on the site, then I reserve the right to change my mind. This is a free site to the public, and a democratic communism - where the leader does things for the benefit of the people, and asks the opinion of the population to get feedback, but if the feedback is something is will be determental to the site, then the idea is scrapped and the vote is nullified.
You keep mentioning the phrase concerning making connections with the "real life situations" vs the "virtual situations". There are some flaws in your argument...
Yes, these pages you see in front of you are virtual, the-spot.net only exists in your mind, and the communication here is stored in the database as binary digits on a hard disc, encoded in magnetic charges. But what is said on here, and the actions taken in response to it, are very much real, and very much affect the way we live our lives with regard to the people that said them. You can build somebody up and tear somebody down with words. Actions can not be taken back, and the pain will still remain if things are poorly handled.
It is because I know this (and from my own unfortunate experiences) that I made my decision - whether you liked it, agreed with it, or can even accept it...or not.
When someone on the site attacks your character, slanders (or in this case libel, since it's written) your name, and posts false things about you...then it becomes personal and emotions are evoked, and everything you want to do within your power becomes possibilites. Such reactions can not be taken. This is not a clubhouse, sandbox, or gang where you can kick someone out because they called you a bad name. This is an organization, and in some respects, a business, in the way it's run.
Administration is not an easy job...moderating is easier, but it requires an objective view of the material before you. Structure is essential in an organization, but no structure is perfect. I could share with you my lecture notes from my Communication in Organizations college class, which is why I am organizing the site's infrastructure so much in these past and coming weeks...but I don't have time for that.
I may look like the bad guy because of the decisions I make concerning the site...but look - we still have a site, and there are still people here and coming...and not all of them can be attributed to your efforts, though some can. You're not alone in the public relations field. UPS was the Manager for Public Relations on etbustudents.cc and is still the main PR person that I am aware of for the site. But don't think that you're the only person out there that's trying to bring people in...everyone is doing it.
Because you're my brother, I am able to anticipate your reactions to certain stimuli, and I had anticipated that this would happen if something didn't go as I suggested it would. It only shows me that there is still much to be learned on your part about remaining calm in certain situations, and talking them over, trying to see both sides...and understanding the administrative reason behind the decision. You may not like the decision, but I am not obligated to do anything with regards to your site status, simply because you're related, or because I mentioned it, or because you asked. I had planned on doing it because I thought you had a better handle on your temper...unfortunately I was incorrect in my assumption. But I had to give you a shot none-the-less, so that I could at least say I tried, without having to do any disaster control on potential mistakes.
At a later date you may be reconsidered for becoming a moderator, but that time is not right now.
"Because I choose to."
[[Neo]]