What are the perks of dating/marrying you? Now that we're a little older, and a little wiser, "Playa's and Honeys" is a little passe. Let's have real discussions about real relationships.

[Neo]

Give some reasons that you think someone would benefit from dating/marrying you...

[Vanyl]

Good reasons? Because apparently I have a lot of superficial ones:

• - financial stability
  - a car/chauffeur
  - can cook well
  - can mend clothing
  - will clean up after you if you leave your mess around long enough
  - forgive things I shouldn't (cheating, disrespect, telling me I'm unattractive in some or many ways)

The good reasons, or reasons I think are good reasons:

• - I love fiercely and with everything I have
  - I'm affectionate
  - I'm kinky
  - I'm open-minded
  - I'm willing to help if something happens and you need my support

[Neo]

Hmm, I'm not sure why anyone should date/marry me...I will have to make another thread if we can get some SO's/spouses on here to explain why they think the perks are.

I guess...

• Financially stable
• sense of humor
• empathetic
• can be decisive (Where do you want to go for dinner? / idk / QuickTrip it is!)
• relatively open-minded

I'm not very good at this - I can see why I'm not a sales person.

[Pam]

This is a really hard question. Most people don't see the truly good things about themselves that make other people love them. My mom says I am a very strong woman that has grown stronger with all I've had to endure, that I am very loving, giving, generous, and always trying to help other people. I don't always see those things in me, but others do.

[Neo]

I didn't realize how difficult a question it was until I tried to answer it. GlennCoco saw it and laughed at my "financial stability" point, and was adamant about making sure I put sense of humor on there because that's what drew her, even when she's mad at me she still laughs and can't stay mad. I had already put it on there, as #2...I guess it should have been #1.

[GlennCoco]

I didn't realize how difficult a question it was until I tried to answer it. GlennCoco saw it and laughed at my "financial stability" point, and was adamant about making sure I put sense of humor on there because that's what drew her, even when she's mad at me she still laughs and can't stay mad. I had already put it on there, as #2...I guess it should have been #1.

Neo has a lot of marriageable qualities, and I'd say humor is #1. He's also very good at knowing when people are angry or upset, and sometimes why they are so. Quite a hard quality to find in a guy.

My qualities are: I'm a pretty good cook, and tidy! I'm friendly, kind, and pretty fun to be around 90% of the time. For the most part, I have my stuff together.

[Neo]

He's also very good at knowing when people are angry or upset, and sometimes why they are so.

This comes from years and years of talking with people on instant messenger and gauging their mood by the words they use, their response time, and their general communicative abilities. That level of nuance is why I'm able to do it in person too.

For the most part, I have my stuff together.

This certainly makes it easier to get things done as a couple...not having to drag the other half through the process, like some of our IRL friends are having to do with their boyfriend/girlfriend.

[DMoney]

No idea....not even sure how I got married. LOL

[Vanyl]

No idea....not even sure how I got married. LOL

If your wife says she did "he loves me, he loves me not" or flipped a coin, I will laugh so hard.